Two lessons learnt after two years of marriage

Two lessons learnt after two years of marriage

17th June 2018 22 By Rachael Stray

The hubby and I are celebrating our two year wedding anniversary and I wanted to share two lessons I have learnt after two years of marriage.

I can’t quite believe it’s been two years since our amazing wedding day – it has genuinely flown by!

Steve and I signing the register

Steve and I signing the register Photo: Ed and Maggie Sewell

Last year our anniversary fell on Father’s Day and we went to a big family BBQ at Steve’s parents house which was also a farewell party for us; as later that week we had our big move up to the North East!
It was a lovely day but this year we want it to be just the two of us.

So on our anniversary itself we are off to Slaley Hall in Northumberland for an overnight stay and spa day and I cannot wait!

I’ve been to Slaley for a couple of fantastic weddings but never actually had the pleasure of staying over or indulging in the spa delights and Steve has never been. Hopefully we are in for a treat.

You can read all about our spa break at Slaley Hall here.

Messing around on our wedding day

Messing around on our wedding day Photo: Ed and Maggie Sewell

After reading Faith’s blog post about celebrating her two year wedding anniversary and what lessons she’s learned I thought I’d do something similar. You can read her brilliant post here.
Of course I feel like I’ve learnt much more than just two things but wanted to share just a snippet with you.

What two things have we learnt after two years of marriage?

1. Communicate and discuss everything. Don’t just assume, ask!

We’ve all heard the phrase:

“You should never assume as it makes an ass out of you and me.”

I’m a firm believer in this.
You have to communicate your needs, your frustrations, your likes and dislikes with each other otherwise how will your partner ever know?
Neither of us are mind readers so being able to talk about what is on our minds is important; otherwise you bottle things up and eventually a silly little thing makes you snap and go over the edge and a full blown screaming match ensues.

Not nice.
It’s so easy to get distracted today and not listen to your partner and it’s something we are both guilty of at times. Try to put the phone down when your spouse is talking and actively listen to them.

It will make a big difference and both of you will feel you are being listened to and are listening to one another.

2. Participating in an activity together will bring you closer together

When you’re married and you work full time having any sort of spare time to do anything hobby related can be difficult around the usual day-to-day activities. Life really does have an annoying habit of getting in the way!
However, since March Steve and I have started running together as we are both training for the Great North Run.
Doing a proper run was on my 30 things to do before I’m 30 list and you can find out all about this challenge in my taking on my first half marathon post.

So both of us being successful in the Great North Run ballot has given us a common goal to pursue together.

When we’re out for a run; this is time we get to cheer each other on and encourage one another – all while exercising and reducing our stress.
It’s hard work (probably more so for me) as I’m actually running and a bit of a sweaty mess and Steve is cruising next to me barely above a walking pace! I’m enjoying (not hating) our training sessions and I do feel like it’s bringing us closer together.

Post-run selfie

Post-run selfie

What nuggets of wisdom have you learnt after being with your partner or being married? Let me know in the comments below.

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Our wonderful wedding pictures were taken by the very talented Ed and Maggie Sewell; you can check out their other work here:

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